Setbacks and Leaps Forward

 Sunday had its ups and downs, but before I move on to an update of Sunday's accomplishments I didn't want to forget the laundry.  It was pointed out that I didn't fully explain my processes, only my schedule, besides I need to point out that as of 4:30am Monday morning my children still haven't gathered their clean clothes from there even though they've had since FRIDAY to get them.  I will be loudly bitching soon, but I have enough courtesy not to wake people up this early only because my youngest grandson is asleep in their room and my oldest grandson upstairs hasn't been feeling well.  It's frustrating as hell to have to yell at grown-ass adults to do something as simple as put away your clean clothes.  And let's be clear the only thing they need to do is put them away all the clothes are either neatly hung or neatly folded.  It's a 30-second task, okay well maybe a little more than that but it doesn't take that much time.  Even though I never request it until Friday, my husband grabs our clothes on his way in the door after work and gets them to put away so the stacks of stuff to put away stay small.  

Anyway, my laundry room set-up. First, you know those white racks that connect to the wall? I have one on one side with a bar and one on the other without that I still hang things on.  Don't quote me on the length. I have no sense of measurement.  That's my husband's department.  I'm going to try to give you links to a general idea of what I have in there, except hangers because dude, if you can't find hangers, you have bigger issues than how I put together my laundry room.  The one with the bar is where I hang the clean clothes, across from that is the one where I put some of the empty hangars.  I'm really big in yard sales, so everyone in my home has a decent-sized wardrobe.  I like to have enough clothes in every wardrobe that if I get sick for a week or so they still have clothes.  Everyone in my house has a minimum of two weeks' worth of clothes, usually a lot more than that.  That means I need a lot of hangers.  But on the rack without the bar are my top hangers, which are the clear kind with the metal hook, my pants hangers which are just black plastic hangers, the boys pants hangers which are the kind with the clips on the end, and children's hangers for the grandchildren.  Hanging in the back of that rack along the wall are closet sorter hangers for regular clothes and for pants.  On the shelves above are household supplies like paper towels or lightbulbs, since my laundry doubles as the cleaning supplies storage.  Below the hanger side, I have those stick-on-the-wall plastic hooks with a bunch of delicates bags hanging on them. Below the clean clothes are my sorters. I used to have stationary sorters that my husband built for me, but after a few moves; I realized stationary sorters don't always fit well into the available space, so I switched to pop-up hampers. I have a big family, as I mentioned, so I use five for the loads I described yesterday.  I also keep two or three of the smaller size folded up between those and the laundry room table on the adjacent wall.  The smaller hampers are for the family to use for their dirty clothes that don't fit in their hampers when they're bringing them down. they pull it out pop it up and throw the unsorted clothes in because inevitably they will mess up my sorting or forget to check pockets if they sort it themselves.  I want to do my own sorting.  I have them place it against the linen closet toward the opening of the room. But even if they left it in the room, the smaller hampers look nothing like my sorters, so I will not miss them.  

As you can see if you click through on the link, my laundry room table is just a simple folding table, again I have no idea if the one in the link is the same size, it is the same color though.  This sits below some cupboards that store cleaning supplies for the rest of the house.  In the corner beside it, is my vacuum and mop with a bucket, and sitting on top of those is an overflow tote without a lid for hangers that don't fit in their homes.  This is the messiest part of the room but I don't have the space to spread out more without cutting into the room to move between the machines and sorting area.  Sometimes you have to compromise, you know?  Under the table, I have two of those half hamper/half basket baskets because mine at least has a higher solid part on the bottom to keep dirt out so I can keep them on the floor without worrying about things getting dirty.  On the table are two regular baskets, and above the table, hanging from the cupboard, are two pop-up baskets. This is where all my folded clothes go.  The ones on the table are both for couples so I don't need eight baskets I only need six and with having the small children's stuff in hanging baskets there's just enough space for everything to fit.  I put linens directly in the linen closet and stack towels on top of the washer to get put away by the person who cleans the bathrooms.  

The opposite wall has my washer and dryer, which, because of the way the hookups are made, are connected in the opposite order to how you'd imagine them, and between those in a narrow shelving unit. (mine is brown with four shelves but a similar design) On the shelves between them are my laundry soap, fabric softener, bleach, and all those other laundry-related tools on the top two shelves, and below are random cleaning supplies.  The top of my washer has nothing on it because like I said that's where I put the towel when they're waiting to be put away.  On my dryer, I have two baskets and three hanger sorters. Everyone in my house has different color hangers.  Mine are clear for top, black for pants, one my children has white plastic hangers with clip pants hanger, another has green with clip pants hangers, the other uses only blue plastic pants hangers and the kids use children's hangers and the smaller clip pants hangers. I have a method to my madness, not only does everyone using different hangers prevent people from grabbing the wrong clothes if they're not paying attention, it tells me at a glance who hasn't collected their clothes and who's hoarding my empty hangers.  And it's partially a setup for when they finally move out.  I won't need a million and one hangers for just my spouse and myself. So when they move out, they'll take their color of hangers and their sorter for hangers with them.  It's one less thing they'll have to buy when they're on their own, and it comes with an organizational method for keeping track of it. (Just a quick FYI. I'm not affiliated with any of the links. I just needed a means of showing you what I'm talking about, so I don't care whether you decide to buy and mimic.) The baskets, if you're wondering, are for socks.  I don't do socks.  I put them neatly in rows in the basket to be sorted by my husband or my daughter.  He won't sort their socks because they're supposed to be the parents.  So one basket has mine, my spouses and my sons and the other has my daughter's, her husband's and her children's.  Even if I was going to do them, I'd still use a sock basket because I wouldn't want to take the time sorting them while the rest of the whites are getting wrinkled in the dryer.  

So anyway, that's every detail you need to know about my laundry that a friend of mine asked me to be more specific about.  Yes, I have been anal about the way I set up my laundry room for years. That's not anything new. I just now have a schedule to go with the setup.  

Now on to yesterday, I didn't even get to writing. I was too tired by the time the day ended.  But I'm still pretty happy with the day.  I told you yesterday about how my office was a catchall that had spilled into my husband's office, making both rooms fairly hard to use.  So I knew just looking at the amount of stuff that this is not something that gets put away and cleaned up in one go.  It's just too daunting.  I bought three extra-large totes with the idea that if everything would fit into those and I could find a place that's both out of the way and easy to access, I'd finally be able to start working on my office.  My husband helped me with this project but we managed to get everything but the picture totes to fit in these totes and find a place to stack them that's out of the way for both of us and easy for me to get to so once I get the room ready to put stuff in it I can work at the totes maybe a half-hour or hour a day until they're emptied.  The room is finally at a place where it actually can be cleaned because there's no longer too much stuff blocking the places that need to be cleaned.  I'm pretty excited about that. 

On the downside, I still have my daughter's tote full of winter clothes in the middle of my office.  I asked her months ago to get it out of here. There's also a walker because I often have my grandson and a yoga ball I should use but never do, that I'm considering deflating and getting out of here just to get the space back. It's the tote that's really bothering me because it's not a small tote and it's in the way.  I could serve a children's tea party on this tote. It needs to go.  

But just to point out how big a deal this is, with the way things were before this project, walking through my husband's office felt like walking through a storage closet, and sadly, everyone has to walk through there. Our offices are supposed to be one dining room between the kitchen and the living room, but we needed space for our computers and bookcases and the kitchen was large enough to fit the dining room table.  We're not social people so it's not like we're having regular guest dinners, at the time when we moved in we were only a family of four because my daughter was seeing if the grass was greener at her Dad's house for a year.  She determined it was not greener and came home the following year.  But that's not the point. We didn't really need a dining room. We'd lived without much of one in our previous apartment, we didn't have a ton of dining room furniture.  What we needed was space to store around 12 bookcases, two computer desks, and four large filing cabinets.  So my eight cherry bookcases were turned back to back to form a pseudo wall and two offices were made.  I don't actually know how many bookcases my husband has against the opposite wall. I think it's four, but I've never actually counted or paid attention. I probably should someday.  Anyway, since I use my computer more with a bigger purpose for it, or at least bigger dreams for it, I got the tucked-away side that nobody really needs to go through and he got the pseudo hallway side people have to walk through. 

So the fact that his side is now a wide-open space adorned with well-decorated bookcases instead of stacks of baskets and boxes filled with junk and stuff piled on those is a vast improvement to the state of the house.  The fact that if my daughter took her stuff and her baby's stuff out of here, my side would only look a little cluttered because of all the decorations I've pulled down to be dusted and re-homed is a major milestone.  

My goals for the day include:

• Putting her tote in the middle of her bed if she doesn't move it herself
• Re-shelving the books that were tucked on their sides on the shelf because it's a lot of work to shelve new books in my collection. I have too many physical books for the task to be simple. (And yes, Marie Kondo, all my books make me happy they're hardcover, and more than half are autographed) 
• Cleaning and dusting all the decorations that are mostly gathered on my desk.
• Cleaning and dusting all the stuff on the walls and fixing that map frame that keeps popping apart just to irritate me. 
• Cleaning and dusting all the surfaces.
• Sweeping and mopping the floor
• Giving all my decorations homes in my office
• Putting away the stuff that didn't fit in the three totes (which are large totes of pictures that get tucked under my desk until I have the time to scan them all. Someday.)

It looks like a lot and will probably take at least a couple hours, but it's not as much as it sounds like.  Or at least that's what I'm trying to convince myself.  I'm tired of waiting for my office to look like my office again. I need a space in this house that's just mine to feel human again.  To feel like me.  The stuff in the totes I'd be happy to take my time about.  I mean it will be a pain when I need something I can't find, but so such is life.  At least the room will look like an office instead of a dumping ground.  If my office is a reflection of myself, it would go a long way toward explaining why I've felt just yucky for months now.  Maybe if I have space of my own that I can actually use again I'll start to feel like I'm not so smothered in my current life.  Don't get me wrong, I love my children and my grandchildren and of course my spouse, they're my world. But they can't be my entire world and they have been for more than twenty years now.  It's time to include something else in that world, too. It's time to make a little space for me and what I want and need. 

Here's the thing they never tell you is a massive lie.  When you're young and you have children, you're told repeatedly to make everything about them. Put them first because your time is going to come when they're grown. That's a lie.  When they're grown in this economy, it's going to take them a bit to get on their feet and live apart from you, so they aren't immediately moving out because they have to get into a position where they can actually afford to. (Even then life will hit them hard a few times and they'll have to come back and start again) And then they're going to start multiplying because they're having offspring which they need help raising because they can't afford not to have both of them working and daycare in this day and age is ridiculously overpriced.  I understand that daycare workers need to eat too, but dude, there's not much left to a paycheck after paying them.  So if you want your kids to get ahead and not have to live with you forever, you'll need to help with watching your grandkids, which means even though you didn't start over, you started over.  Except now, when you've reached this stage of life where your kids are grown, they are still young enough to need regular advice on entering adulthood and the things they encounter there and your grandkids require the same amount of attention your kids did so it's like you've now gotten more kids to put ahead of yourself.  That promised you time, it's NOT coming.  You will always be needed by someone to do something. So if you're reading this and you're young, take an hour a day and make it about you.  Carve out a little bit of time that's yours, take it now, take it anytime you can because the promised land doesn't exist.  I'm not saying don't prioritize your kids and make sure their needs are met.  Definitely do that, it's an important part of parenting, but stop trying to convince yourself that if you do this now if you shelf all your wants, needs, and dreams now, twenty years from now you'll be looking back at all the things you didn't do because of that mindset that you'll realize you're never going to get to do because that being needed that expectation that you will go last, it NEVER ends. And it's not just me saying this I've discussed this with a few friends whose kids are all legal adults now, and they're in the same place I am, asking when their time is coming.  I have a friend whose almost retirement age that still has her life revolving entirely around her adult child.  Maybe in yesteryear, this was the case, but it's not anymore because it's not as easy to survive anymore.  The cost of living increases are not matched by the average wage.  That's probably not going to get better as time goes on, it's probably only going to get worse, so if you're young start making a point of carving out that time now.  Make a part of the day about you, even if like I said above it's only an hour, it will make a world of difference. 

Now that I've made that PSA back to the path to getting organized.  I think I have my Research Library Template finished, at least for now.  I currently can't think of anything else I'd like to add to it.  I mean, I may come across a link or two to add to the links page, but that sort of adjustment will only take a couple of seconds.  Otherwise, it's pretty much done. Also on a side note, I recently added Pro Writing Aide to my browser, and it's driving me nuts.  Sometimes I just want to use a passive verb.  I often like the way I word things, even if there's a better way to say it because that's my voice coming through.  All these freaking lines through my text from the grammar police are getting on my nerves.  

I worked on the Expense Template and ran into some snags there.  I thought because of some menu items that Scrivener had math capabilities.  What it has is accessibility for a plug-in called MathType.  That particular plug-in is a subscription service that costs $49.99 a year per user.  I'm SO not going to pay that.  Especially not for a template that I'm not going to use for at least a year or two and even then only occasionally.  That's said I'm not giving up.  I downloaded a program called LibreCalc, and I learned that I can drag a spreadsheet into Scrivener to save.  I already knew you could do that. It doesn't open in Scrivener; it opens in a LibreCalc pop-up window.  Here's the interesting part.  I can make changes and update, save it in LibreCalc and it updates in the file in Scrivener too.  It's not perfect, it's not ideal, and it's not what I have in mind, but it will work.  The problem is I haven't even used Excell since I was a teenager, so I don't remember how to use a spreadsheet program and make it do the math that I want this one to do.  This means I now need to take the time to learn LibreCalc so I can explain how to use the spreadsheets saved in my template.  I want to take the time to make the spreadsheets do all the math you'd need as a published, working writer.  

My goals include:

• A tally sheet for what you've spent prior to publishing your first novel to provide a sales goal for breaking even.
• A sheet that helps you calculate the percentage of your home that is your home office and then takes that percentage and lets you plug in the bills you can claim and automatically tells you what percentage of those bills you can claim.  I'm not explaining this right.  In my research, I've learned that the percentage of space your home office takes up in your house is the percentage of your monthly bills like rent, electricity, and internet you can claim.  So I'd like a spreadsheet or calculator program that first tells you okay this is the percentage of the house that your office takes up, and this is the amount on the bill you can claim.  
• A note of warning about what can be inside the office you're claiming as in if you've got any personal items in there and the IRS shows up for an audit they can say it doesn't fit the business test.  I didn't entirely understand that because seriously, lots of people have personal crap in their real business offices, so why wouldn't you have it in your home office? I need to do more research on that.
• Some sort of hobby test, because if you don't earn enough from writing and try to make writing associated write-offs of self-employment on taxes, apparently they can claim you're actually a hobbyist and ding your taxes on that.  Again, I need to research this more.
• Some sort of itemized list of all the stuff you can claim. Every article seems to mention different things.  

Basically, I want this template to let me do the work making the template and then afterward do the work for me with keeping up with anything financial I'm going to need tax-wise.  I want to do the research now, so it's not a worry later when I want to be focusing on my story. 

I'm also considering looking into if there's a way to make a template that manages the author's website and promotion.   If I can make every aspect of what an author needs to do into a template that just handles most of it, then when I actually get to the writing phase, it ceases to be a worry. I want to create templates now so that eventually I can just write and get lost in that.  But that's just something in the back of my head.  Anyway, I worked on that. I didn't make a hell of a lot of progress because I encountered a bunch of roadblocks.

Since the spouse was home, I didn't have to clean the bedroom yesterday. Now that I've made it so easy he doesn't mind being the one to do it on his days off. It's ten minutes, it's easy, and it's definitely worth the effort because our lovely, clean room is a comfortable oasis where we can escape from the rest of the very busy house.  I kept up with email and bookmarks so that was good but didn't really get to the task of writing because by the time I got there I was so tired I could barely keep my eyes open.  

Here's hoping that a clean office makes a clean mind and I can catch up on my NaNoWriMo project.  I put my Pacemaker counter on the bar, and that's the goal to draft the entire planned series before the end of next December.  I'd add a widget for NaNoWriMo, but I can't seem to find one, not that I'm making impressive leaps and bounds there.  I am adding to notes here and there usually on my phone that still need to be updated in the project, but I'm doing it, that should count for something.  Also, I seem to have screwed something up with combining my template in progress with the NaNoWriMo one because it keeps telling me I've written 0 words even when I write some, so I'll have to eventually take a look at that.  But for today that's my update on yesterday. 

It's a slow journey to getting organized and getting what I want in life, but at least I'm starting to finally make it right?

 Update: Now that I know how to make slideshows. I made one of the laundry room.  It's midweek and I like to set up the load for the next day when I'm finished with the current day so it looks a little messy, but it's actually organized chaos.  And I do have two sock baskets but my daughter takes forever to sort hers and I use what container is handy on the weeks I don't get the sock basket back.  

Getting Started

Hi, my name is Jenn and I'm helplessly disorganized.  It's been a lifetime constant and regularly gets in the way of pursuing my dreams.  It's not one aspect of my life, it's most aspects of my life and it's not my only issue, but it is a large one. I have no idea if this blog will be of interest to anyone else but me, but that's not really the point of it. It would be nice to find people with similar issues to share ideas with, but I guess I'm not about to hold my breath for that.

So I've actually been working on this process, of getting organized, for a few months now, but I thought it might be helpful to the process to create some form of accountability. Or maybe just to see the process written down in case I ever want to repeat it when I inevitably get all disorganized again. 

It's NaNoWriMo and I should be writing, but I've been having difficulty finding my voice even though I know what I want to write about. I think it's because I feel so unsteady. So at the beginning of 2020, before the world fell apart, I decided I was going to organize my entire house. I had lists and inventories for some rooms, but with one of my biggest problem areas, my office, I thought everything needs to be pulled out and put back in one thing at a time so it's organized and not just tucked away.  Except then the world fell apart and most of my office is in laundry baskets in the next room. Not only does this make it a little more difficult to do laundry, but it also makes my office difficult to use at all. Worse, a bunch of other crap has filled the space of the old stuff while it's been in baskets and boxes.  The entire room looks like one big catch-all.  I'm old school. I still prefer a desktop over a laptop because of the setup, the feel of the keys, and most of all the lack of a touchpad.  I was using a laptop on and off for years before I finally learned how to disable the touchpad, so my cursor stopped jumping all over my screen from my fat hands.  My husband upgraded my desktop and it down to the point that it just needs the software installed and was intended to be Linux because I'm not a huge fan of the new versions of Windows and that's been waiting for like a year.  There's just this debilitating stack of things I need to get done and it's not just in my head, it's visible in my house, which is made worse by the sheer number of people currently living with me.  Have you ever heard people talk about how, when your space is cluttered, your mind is cluttered?  It's so true because it's like I can't think clearly anymore because everything has passed my threshold for disorganization.  

So basically I started this blog to talk about the process of finding my way back to clear thinking and hopefully dream realization.  I know I'm a bit old to still be talking about dreams, but I feel like if you reach your forties and that dream is still there in the back of your mind, you're never going to be content with your life until you find some means of achieving it.  I want to write fiction novels and I used to dream of the mainstream publishers, seeing my ideas in a bookstore, but as I've grown older, I think more of my ideas lend themselves to indie publishing simply because I like to genre blend.  I like certain concepts and tropes in fiction you don't really see in those mainstream publishers.  I'm sure I have ideas that if I ever finish may fit nicely with a mainstream publisher and if that ever happens I'd love to chase that dream too, but right now my dreams are focused on finishing a series that I'd like to self-publish and hopefully when I do, earn enough to at least cover the costs of creating it. I don't have dreams of getting rich or making millions from the stories in my head.  My dreams are just seeing those stories on my bookshelf and maybe finding a few people that enjoy them as well. My only financial dreams associated with writing are not going in the hole to put my work out to the world, at least not permanently.  I feel like that's achievable.  

But that's more than just a process of Scrivener putting words on the page, it's a process of fixing a lifestyle gone off course to make those dreams achievable.  So I won't just be talking about writing, I'll be talking about cleaning and laundry and to-do lists. I need to clear the clutter around me and keep it cleared in order to keep my head cleared.  

Like I said, I started this process in September with a Scrivener template.  I didn't like the Basic Template for Fiction. There's not enough to it. I'm too prone to going down the rabbit hole searching for something I need that's not there.  So I went hunting for template downloads except a lot of them don't bother worrying about things like formatting in the notes and that drives me nuts. Some just cater to one genre. A lot of them do questions instead of categories and I don't like that style of character and setting sheets.  Most of them have just the basics in those categories that you're supposed to customize for each individual setting and I'd rather have sheets that are at least customized to the major types.  Like I don't want just a basic setting page that I have to customize myself every time I'm trying to plan a dimension, country, city, business, etc.  I want setting sheets already designed specifically for each of those things and then a basic setting sheet for the stuff that doesn't fit.  Because I want a setting sheet that reminds me to think about the stuff that I might not quickly consider, like history, climate, plant life, among other things.  And I don't want the setting sheets that aren't for bigger places to be bogged down with a ton of things that aren't relevant. The same goes with characters.  I feel like most of these templates were crap on the planning stages and specific to one type of story arc that I'd never learned.  I do intend to learn what a beat sheet is, but when you're looking at a novel template for one never having learned Save The Cat, it looks insane.  I realized to get the template I wanted; I needed to build the template I wanted, and in researching one thing, I kept finding others that needed to be a part of it.  So yeah, I'm still working on the template.  My goal is to at least get a draft done and then keep rewriting that draft as I go along. I still need draft one though. So far I know I'm temporarily happy with my series planning sketch.  And I like my lefthand organization system. It's the sketches I keep working on. I've got this great outside links section that takes me straight to the help I need when I'm writing and I've even got some visuals saved into the sketch for describing features.  I'm a huge fan of visuals.  I also have a ridiculous amount of icons that I really wish Scrivener had the capability of organizing into folders.

As I was going along I realized I wanted a quartet of templates instead of just one.  I like the organization system and I feel like even though that's not Scrivener's intended purpose, it would be a great place to keep track of financials that you need to get in the habit of keeping track of.  As far as my personal ones go I'm just keeping track of the cost of things I've bought for writing, not because I can write it off on taxes, but so I can set myself a sales goal when I actually do publish.  So like I bought Scrivener just for my dreams of writing and while I bought it a while ago and just paid for the upgrade, this is a new practice for me so I listed it as the current price of $49.  That was an expense I wouldn't have had if I didn't want to write, so when I publish I'd at this point at least like to earn $49 to reimburse that expense.  I just want to know that when I pursue my dream that doing so isn't going to become a financial sinkhole for my family. So I'm keeping track of things I never would have bought if I didn't have this dream and adding them up as my sales goal when I finally publish.  Besides an initial expense tally sheet, I'm creating a monthly expense section for when you actually do start writing to get me in the habit of keeping track of the things I'll need on taxes. I know you can write off a certain percentage of household bills like electricity and internet expenses so when I release my first book (in a few years when it's written and ready) I'm hoping having this template made will remind me to start keeping track of those things. The idea is that the Expense Tracker template will have me entirely prepared for tax season when I publish.  

The third template, besides the novel template and expense tracker, is an Idea Library Template to store all the loose untyped pages in boxes and files around my office and all the computer files tucked all over the place in multiple file types.  I want to put them all in one massive file that I can use as a playground when I need a break or when I'm looking for something new to work on, just go in there and play and bit until something takes off.  So when I do pull it out to be a project, one it's used all the same files as my novel template so it will transfer really easily. Two, a lot of it's already done for me and I've left it in the idea library until I felt excited about the idea again so I'm ready to work on it again.  The plan is to read through each idea, try to add one thing before you move on, or add until you're bored with this idea again. Or maybe steal the entire idea to incorporate into the current story you're working on and delete it from the library altogether.  It's all in one place so it's not a huge scavenger hunt, so I feel like once I finish this, it will work really well for keeping me organized.  It also gives me a place to throw all the new ideas in my head so I can focus on the one I want to be focused on.  Getting ideas is not my issue, focussing on one is my issue.  But building this and using it would clean up a lot of the file mess on my computers, and storage drives making me feel more organized.  Making them look less daunting. 

The final template is a Research Library for all the random that might be useful someday bookmarks and file downloads on my machine.  Again, it sorts those things into categories and makes them more manageable, it's already there to drag and drop if I need those topics in my current manuscript,.  It cleans up my bookmarks and file storage.  

So it's a template quartet, all in progress. I'm intending to share with two of my writing friends, honestly, they're my only writing friends at the moment, once I at least have a first draft to share.  I'm doing this because I'm terrible about doing things for myself.  If I make these intending to share them with other people, with the thought in my head that I'm doing it for those other people, I have more of a chance of completing these templates than if I'm making this for myself.  I'm terrible at doing things just for me, something I need to work on yes, but for right now I just have to be creative about finding my way around my failings as a person.

In other matters, I've started using a to-do list program called Todoist. I'm trying to get all my personal failings, cleaning to-dos, and writing to-dos in one place.  I've divided them by type into separate lists because I'm still using the free version, but it puts everything from each list onto the today tab.  

Step one was laundry. I read a writing email that said do a load of laundry every day because that way it doesn't fall behind or take up too much of your day. I don't really see the need for that exactly. I also feel like the writer probably doesn't sort their laundry and pity what their socks look like because I know how socks mixed in with jeans can end up looking.  So I sort my clothes into jeans, darks (dark grays, black, and sometimes navy blue), colors (depending on which I have more of I might put navy blue here too), whites (white, light grays, light khakis, and tans) and finally towels & bedding.  I put my schedule in order of need, what we run out of first, then what we get the most of in the laundry on down until I had a daily schedule.  Mondays are jeans, Tuesdays are darks, Wednesdays are colors, Thursdays are towels and bedding, Fridays are whites.  I then set a schedule of who strips their bed when, there are eight people in my house at the moment so if I have them all change their bedding the same week I'm going to be doing laundry all day Thursday into Friday trying to get it all done.  Half the house gets washed one week, the other half the other. Sometimes if I know there's a lot, and I get done with colors early on Wednesdays, I'll do a load ahead of time.  On the weekend, I hound my family to get their clean clothes out of my laundry room.  It's had mixed results.  

On the positive side, it's really nice to not do any laundry on the weekend.  Laundry doesn't feel as daunting and overwhelming anymore because other than towels and bedding, I normally only need to wash and dry one load per day.  I have a front load high capacity washer and a mini washer so that might be part of why I don't have to do two loads even with eight people.  Even so, it takes a lot less time to only concentrate on one type of item instead of all the laundry. Gathering and sorting every weekday before I get started only takes a few minutes instead of the hour-plus it used to take to find my way through laundry mountain people threw in my laundry room. It allowed me to come up with a method of avoiding laundry mountain by putting a pop-up laundry bin for people to drop clothes in at the entry of the laundry room.  When I'm done for the day I can start loading tomorrow's load to save time and then starting the load doesn't take as long.  I'm not a morning person. I move slower when I first wake up so this actually gets done a lot faster when I have it mostly ready the day before.  I keep up with laundry pretty well and haven't had a lot of I'm out of these, conversations since starting this method.

On the negative side, it's a massive battle to get the kids to get their clean clothes out of my laundry room on the weekends.  It's a battle to get the empty hangers back when I need them.  Sometimes my laundry baskets fill up before I'm finished doing laundry and again it's a fight to get them emptied and get them returned when I need them.  It's really hard getting used to leaving dirty clothes in the other laundry bins when it's not their day to be washed.  Sometimes my kids try to help except they don't understand my system, so I have to spend some morning resorting my bins the way they're supposed to be sorted. Sometimes the kids won't bring laundry out until I've finished the load for the day and then get upset when I tell them it's going to be a week before I wash something because I'm trying really hard to hold firm to this schedule.  I guess the biggest battle is getting my family to understand this is the way I'm doing things now and they need to get on board with that.  

Next, I moved to my bedroom, which had become sort of a catch-all for everything, much like my office.  I should probably explain that when I want to do something, a lot of times I'll go in there instead of to another room, so my bedroom is sort of treated like a public room.  Especially since at one point when we were first getting everyone situated in my house, my office was being used as a large closet and couldn't be used as an office.  So I started with writing a maintenance plan even knowing that the initial clean-up to perform those tasks was going to suck.  And yes, it really sucked.  Pulling out all the furniture to sweep up everything that had fallen behind and underneath, dusting the furniture, clearing all the surfaces to put them back the right way, it took a couple days, mostly because I have a bad back so I have to take a lot more breaks than an average healthy person so as not to injure my back worse than it already is.  But once I finished it, my bedroom makes me so happy.  I have a list - stock the mini-fridge, take out empty boxes to recycling, straighten the mini-fridge corner, straighten the nightstands, empty the ashtrays, (yes I'm a smoker) put laundry in the basket, pick up any large items on the floor, sweep as needed, check recycling and trash, change as needed and make the bed.  Now that I've done the cleaning, that entire list takes ten minutes or less to complete.  On Saturdays, I have dusting and mopping, which takes a little longer, maybe a half-hour tops, and monthly tasks like windows, curtains, walls, and ceiling which may expand the task to an hour.  But my bedroom only depends on my husband for my routine and he's on board with it, so it's clean and stays clean.  It makes me happy to be in there, it makes me happy that the entire task is finished in a few minutes.  

Most of the other rooms are chores. There are eight people in this house. Six of them are legal adults now, even if I call them kids. They are my kids, it's just that my three kids are all over 18 and one collected a spouse that's also over 18.  My office, my bedroom, the laundry, shopping, and any complicated cooking are my chores. If it comes in a box, I'm probably not making it because I don't actually like to cook and if they can't throw something in an oven and set a temperature and timer, I've completely failed as a mother.  I'm also supposed to be the one who's making sure everyone else is getting their chores done.  And before you think it sounds like a lot, one person has bathrooms, cans, and yardwork, another has dishes and cleaning the laundry room, one has cleaning the living room, and the last has cleaning the kitchen and pantry and taking out the trash.  The final adult in the house pays the bills, cleans his office, and fixes the broken stuff.  Everyone has their own bedrooms on top of that list.  Nobody has a massive list of things to do.  These lists become hard with errands, jobs, and the small children needing attention in the house, but they're designed not to be impossible to complete. 

So next on my to-do list is making detailed lists like I did for my bedroom for all the other rooms in the house.   That way no one can say they weren't told and hopefully I can start getting a handle on my house.  I'd like to decorate for Christmas soon. I can't do that with the house in the constant state it's in by people failing to properly do their chores.  Just because they are someone else's chores doesn't mean I'm not working on them when things occur, like a need to use the table or sit on the living room couch.  Did I mention every room in this house has been treated like a catchall of late and that's a lot of the reason why I've passed my threshold for disorganization?  

So that's where I'm at currently on the house. Assuming I keep up with this blog, which I don't have a good track record of, I'll keep you updated on progress.  I'm well aware they keep saying you can't have it all.  I've read it a million times. If you want to write, you should expect your house to get messy or to have to pawn off cleaning and cooking tasks to other people in the household. You should expect to miss out on things with family.  But my question is why?  What if it's just that those people didn't look long enough for the right system because they were driven to get to the words?  I can understand that mindset.  But there's also a mindset that says clean spaces make it easier to concentrate and think and while I'm a naturally disorganized person, I can really understand that too.  I think it's a matter of finding the right system. So I delay getting to really writing a bit so I can get my space clean and find a method of maintaining it that doesn't require a lot of time.  So I may not get a ton of time every day to indulge in my dream, but I maintain good relationships with my spouse, children, and grandchildren. I just need to find the proper balance.  Right now I'm admittedly not finding that balance.  I have zero boundaries with my family and they know it.  It doesn't matter what I'm doing, most of them expect me to stop and give them my undivided attention whenever they wish about whatever they wish and that needs to stop.  I need to carve out a set time where they actually agree to leave me alone and let me be.  I just haven't figured out how to do that yet.  It's on the agenda.  I could accomplish a lot in two silent hours a day if I could find them.  And don't give me get up earlier or stay up later because one I have both night owls and morning people living in the house, it's rare to find a time where everyone is asleep, and two, I have trigeminal neuralgia and a lack of sleep tends to cause flare-ups.  To give you an idea of what that means, have you ever had an abscessed tooth? Imagine that every tooth on one side of your mouth is an abscess. Now add a sinus infection and ear infection on top of that.  It's like having all of that at the same time on one side of your face.  If I get a flare-up it's hard to get anything at all done.  And while the meds help, sometimes when they're helping I feel dizzy, high, or nauseated, all of which are hard to concentrate through.  I have to be careful about how much sleep I skip out on or I'll find myself in worse shape than I already am with trying to get personal things done.  

Anyway, back to getting organized. It's not just my house, it's my systems.  They need to be uncluttered and easy to use, since trips down the rabbit hole are a regular activity for me that's not the case.  So with my bookmarks, I'm moving all the writing and research-related bookmarks into my writing and research templates.  I don't need a bookmark on Greek Mythology for regular usage of my computer. Zeus doesn't really impact my daily life.  I'm making sure all my recipe bookmarks are moved to my Pinterest board.   I'm checking to see if they even work anymore and the things I bookmarked for other people I'm emailing off to them and deleting.  I started by taking all my bookmarks mobile and otherwise and putting them into the other bookmarks folder then deleting the folders I currently have, the plan is to sort through ten bookmarks a day until that folder is empty.  I want my bookmarks bar to be quick and easy to use without a ton of scrolling or distractions.  So we'll see how that goes.

The second thing I've really been working on is email.  I have no idea how I get on so many mailing lists.  I get on average over 100 emails a day, most of them garbage I have no interest in reading.  I've been avoiding my email for years and I tend to miss important correspondence.  My attention has been brought back to it recently because Gmail has sent me messages about how I'm close to my storage limit and either I need to pay for more storage, clean out my email inbox, or stop getting my emails.  Only option two is an acceptable option, no matter how much I don't want to do it.  I use a service called Unroll.Me which has its benefits and its downfalls. 

The benefits: You can clean up your inbox so that it shows up in just one newsletter.  It figures out all your subscriptions and allows one-click unsubscribe.  And you decide what's in the roll-up and what isn't. It's also totally free. 

The downfalls: Apparently they track information in the roll-ups, I don't know to what extent but I read about it when Clean Email, a paid service, tried to get me to switch. Personally, I don't see it as a big deal that they know Old Navy spams me with ads.  They don't actually delete the emails put into the roll-up, they're simply moved out of your inbox into another folder in your email called Unroll Me that still has to be sorted out at some point.  

I like it because it fools me into believing there's not a lot in my inbox and the unsubscribe feature actually works.  It's more of a temporary tool for me while I work to get my Gmail back under control because, let's be honest, I have no interest in reading 1200 newsletters.  I don't even have the time in the day to do all that.  

So I have an email to-do list because again it's a daunting task.  I do the current month plus one month backlist in each of the top categories, inbox, social, and promotions.  First, I scan the headings for things I have no interest in reading and delete them.  Then I move stuff I want to keep in my email into labeled folders like account information and receipts.  That should just leave writing and research-related stuff for the most part.  I print those to PDF and save them into my research library to read later.  If there's anything that doesn't fall into those categories, that I will take the time to read right then, but very few inbox emails don't fall into one of those categories.  I repeat this process in the other two headings with the same constraints.  I've actually cleaned the Inbox tab to just this month. Social is usually empty because of Unroll Me and Promotions is on October 2020, I did a year's worth so far. Yay! I scan the headings in the trash for anything that shouldn't be there and the same with spam and empty both.  I check drafts and sent for anything that doesn't need to be there, downloading any attachments I'm worried I haven't saved elsewhere.  Then I check the category folders. I started with one per day clearing it out with the same process I used on the tabs. Now I check the ones I've already done and start with a new one.  If that category has more than a couple thousand emails, I break it into pieces and do it by months.  I've actually made really good progress. I went from 99 percent full to 79 percent full so the process is working. I spend about an hour working on emails, which is more than I want to be spending but eventually, it should pay off and become manageable.  When I'm done, I empty the trash and head to Amazon, where I learned I have a ridiculous amount of subscriptions.  To get to those, I go to my account and it's in one of the lists on the bottom left.  I unsubscribe from at least five before heading to Unroll.Me where I do the same.  I want the subscriptions gone, but I don't want to spend my whole day unsubscribing from them.  So again I break it up into small manageable portions and try to concentrate less on visible progress and more on being able to check off my daily box and be done with it knowing that I am making progress.  

I'm trying to get the rest of my space and files organized but these are really the only places I've made progress so far and this post is kind of long, so I'll try to check in tomorrow to let you know where I'm at with getting organized and my writing journey.